Two of my good friends have been dating for several years. One year ago, while the girlfriend was visiting family for a few months, her boyfriend cheated on her with another good mutual friend. After he told his girlfriend about it, she decided to forgive him and stay together. But now she wants me to stay friends with both of them but ditch the girl he cheated on her with. I still want to be friends with all three of them, and in my mind what he did was worse than what she did. What should I do?
I wish I could bake a cake out of rainbows and smiles and we'd all eat and be happy
Dear "I wish I could bake a cake out of rainbows",
Wow, man. I'm embarrassed at how stereotypically female this girl is being -- hating on the other woman, while forgiving her boyfriend. My first suggestion is for her to read my recent post about feminism. My second suggestion is for her to listen the Spice Girls' hit single "Wannabe" in which they recommend, "if you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends." Technically, her boyfriend followed that advice, so.
Furthermore, if this chick can forgive her boyfriend, then she should be able to forgive her friend. But, IRREGARDLESS, she has absolutely no right to tell you who you can be friends with. So, I think you should tell your friend, "You better check yourself, before you wreck [all of your own friendships]". And then bake that cake and be friends with everyone.
Hearts & Stars,
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